Do you become insecure in social gatherings?
Do you feel shy in front of others?
Do you face difficulties in making friends?
“Socially awkward” ; an individual excessively afraid of social interaction due to some form of peer rejection or personal choice. Presenting a form or different forms of uncomfortability when around others.
After hundreds of years evolution, we have evolved to be called as “homo sapiens”, also known as HUMANS: THE SOCIAL CREATURES. Having friends and social connections is key to our mental and emotional health. However so many of us feel awkward when in a social setting. We feel underconfident and intoverted with people, cannot be sure of what to speak, and constantly feeling a fear or pressure of being judged by others. This can lead to isolation and loneliness in the long term.
None of us are born with social skills and no quality, be it extrovert or intovert can be categorised as good or bad. Being socially awkward is nothing to feel ashamed about and can be improved over time.
Here are some tips and tricks you can incorporate in your lifestyle to achieve your share of attention, appreciation and social connections.
- If you have a first meeting with someone, you should always choose a place which is familiar to you and have been there number of times. Make yourself comfortable to the ambience if its a new place, it will surely help.
- Be interested in other people and ask questions. The key is to listen, to focus and give a genuine attempt of understanding the other person. There are always interesting things to discover and learn about people.
- Steer the conversatrion to your comfort zone. We all have have certain topics about which we can speak for hours. Be it TV shows, food, clothes, music or anything in the world. Describe your interests and share your knwledge as much as you can.
- Understand the fact that the other person is more awkward and uncomfortable as you are. Try to make him or her comfortable in that unfamiliar setting and you will realize things flow smoothly.
- Begin easy. Take yourself out on solo dates. Visit comforting and familiar places first then step up your game and go to new environments. Basically just put yourself in uncomfortable situations and its okay to mess up because you will be all alone and no one will judge anyway.
- Pay someone a compliment. The very next time if you like or adore something about someone, let them know. Genuine compliments do wonders and are great ice breakers.
- Smile and try to mantain eye contact to show you are interested in what the other person is saying. Keep your body calm and composed and keep a subtle smile on your face. This will make you approachable and interesting.
- ITS OKAY TO MESS UP! NOBODY IS PERFECT. HAVE POSITIVE PERSPECTIVES AND GO ON. PRACTIVE SELF TALK AND APPRECIATION.